My Birth Story 2

 

Read My Birth Story 1 first in order to get the flow

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“Go to the labour room now, ARM and Syntocinon”

That was what Dr. HS told the nurse in his clinic right after he had done a VE and a membrane-sweeping on me. So, in the labour room.. after they managed to locate the right vein for IV and put on the drip and my hand did not go bulging like the first time, Dr. A came.

Dr. A was just a typical not so friendly arab lady ObGyn. I know she would be the one who would be doing another VE and also ARM (Artificially Rupturing the Membranes). I was quite relaxed at this point because I am very used with both procedures. I have experienced ARM both with Inas and Umar’s births and all mothers must have gone through VE before delivering their babies. ARM common term is also “breaking the water/waterbag”.

So, Dr. A put on her gloves and poked deep inside me and I was taking a deep breath and still doing good resisting the pain.. Alhamdulillah I thought! The waters broke and I felt so much water coming out of me..

Then, Dr.A took off her gloves, threw them away! But the nurses gave her a new pair and she put them on. I was like.. Hey.. why does she want to poke me again?

All of them know that I am already 3 cm dilated and ARM was successfully done!! I was confused and puzzled! The problem here is no matter how many times you asked, you would not get the right explanation..

So, Dr. A with her new pair of gloves poked me again for the second time. This time it was deeper and much more intensed! I have never felt and expected that a normal VE would be this harsh!! And her fingers continued to prod inside me for a long time.. no one in the labour room knew what she was doing.. She was as quiet as a stone… her mouth was shut.. only her fingers hurting me They were 3-4 nurses, Dr.A and me in the labour room. Remember? Husband is not allowed.

 The room was dead. Silence! She did not say a word.. nothing at all to explain her doings!! Back home, even a GP would explain the simplest common procedure to us. I seriously couldn’t even breath at this point. I was already sweating and the nurses kept on calling my name. Then, Dr. A asked the nurse to call another doctor… Call Dr. F now.. 

She repeatedly said call Dr. F now.. her voice was in a serious state. I was much more in pain and distress than her for what she had done inside me but I did not have a clue what was going on. She changed to another pair of new gloves and again poked me deep inside

Dr. F came. A tall large built male ObGyn who looks much senior and gives out a more confident and proud vibes. Also like DrA the female ObGyn, Dr. F did not say anything.. he put on a pair of new fresh gloves and I still couldn’t make sense what was so wrong with me that they need TWO ObGyn to examine me!!??

So, he poked me very very deep inside. It was much much much more intensed than Dr.A’s doing. I was out of control of my breathing and thus could feel more the excruciating sharp pain underneath. How could I be relaxed as they told me to when I was not mentally prepared and did not even know what was it all about??

I was breathless and in real pain..

I couldn’t remember how many times he changed to a pair of new fresh gloves. He changed everytime he wanted to poke me.

Everytime his fingers went inside, it was just natural that my body was pushed upwards the bed, I was jerking up. Quickly the nurses held my shoulders and made me stayed put while saying… relax.. relax.. the doctor is just trying to help you!!

What help?? I didn’t even know why he wanted to help me by making it much more painful and torturing.

I was held so I couldn’t move when the Dr. pushed me from downunder :(

It was so painful that I just wept and cried softly like a small kid.. I had already had tears from the beginning and now I was unconsciously getting worse feeling out of control of the pain… and I cried!

My legs were uncontrollably shaking and shivering. I had never gone through this experience. I had also never expected that when I was in such a great pain, my legs could shiver and shake by themselves LITERALLY.

I was breathless and sweating although the room was extremely cold. I had asked the nurse to help me put on my socks but they said, no need coz they might get wet and dirty. I had gone through 2 deliveries before and I always had my socks on and they never got dirty.

But, never mind.. I could still bear the coldness compared with pain.

They put on the oxygen mask, because it was just apparent I was gasping and crying while trying to bear the pain. I was very sore emotionally and physically. For me, it was not easy to be there alone without Mr.Husband in the company of unfamiliar faces, male ObGyn and hostile situation. But here, it might just be awkward to have the husband around in the same labour room. It might be more awkward for the doctors I guess. But, they would have been more cautious when the husband is around.. may be?

“Your baby put her hand on her forehead.. I am trying to push the hand away so the head.. bla.. bla.. bla..”  said Dr. F.

Ohh.. so that was the reason why they have been poking me very deep inside. No wonder it was very intensed and excruciating!! Their fingers had gone really deep up till the baby’s head and I was only 3 cm dilated at that time.

I would try 1 more time to help you deliver normally!

This time he inserted his fingers again  deeper and I saw the nurse passed him a long small clear typical-look hospital tube.. I couldn’t think of the significance of the tube in my case but I saw the doctor taking the tube and brought it down. I know he would use it down there but I just couldn’t feel it coz the pain underneath was  much really stronger, a burnt-like very hot sore feeling.. I dont know exactly how to describe.

I managed to push aside the baby’s hand but then she put it again at the same spot. We’ll see how it goes but I guess with contractions, it would be all right! - said Dr. F, the male ObGyn.

All the ObGyn went out and I was left with the nurses in the labour room. The nurses were reminded not to leave me alone at any time. Someone must be with me all the time.

Before the doctors left, they had a time to argue in front of me. Dr.A the female doctor reported to Dr.F, the male much senior ObGyn that the nurses did not tell her about my ARM and Syntocinon to which the nurses denied.. The little misunderstanding happened right in front of me and Dr.F reminded the nurses of their jobs there and then. Errgh! What a scene!

I was already a bit calm at this point. They had already added Syntocinon through the IV and thus, I should start be having strong contractions soon. I was also been given Syntocinon when I delivered Inas so I could expect the strong contractions it produced.

My mother came in and talked to me for a while before she went out with KakAzra for Zuhur prayer. Zuhur during winter is around 11.30-11.40 am. Then, Diana came in before KakNani. Only 1 female person can come and visit me at the labour room at one time…

Part 3 of my birth story will be coming soon.

For now, I just would like to show my baby’s forehead which has a red circle mark from the small transparent tube that the ObGyn used to move the baby’s hand away from her head. The procedure was done through the vagina when I was 3 cm dilated (mentioned above) and the picture below was taken on the 8th day after birth. The mark had become more obvious after we shaved her head on the 7th day.